Self-love through fitness

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Making your workouts about you.

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Text: Alexandra Beck

For many of us, the word 'fitness' comes with a suitcase full of expectations. Sculpted abs, calorie counts, and before-and-after photos flood our feeds, subtly whispering that success looks a certain way. But what if we flipped the script? What if fitness wasn’t about shrinking, sculpting, or meeting someone else’s idea of perfection - but instead, about showing up for you?

Self-love and fitness might not seem like natural companions at first glance. After all, gym culture can sometimes feel like it’s built on punishment - burning off last night’s dessert or earning the next one. But true self-love in fitness isn’t about making up for what you ate or chasing after a body type that may not even align with your genetics. It’s about movement that feels good, goals that are meaningful to you, and creating a routine that supports your mental and physical well-being.

Shift the narrative: From punishment to celebration

One of the biggest mindset shifts you can make is reframing your workout from being a punishment to being a celebration. Think about it: your body shows up for you every single day. It carries you through work meetings, grocery store runs, and late-night dance parties in the kitchen. Doesn’t it deserve to be celebrated?

Instead of viewing exercise as a task on your to-do list, try approaching it with gratitude. You get to move your body. You get to build strength, flexibility, and endurance. Fitness isn’t a debt to repay—it’s a privilege to embrace.

Define your 'why'

Self-love through fitness starts with understanding your ‘why.’ Are you working out to have more energy to play with your kids? To feel stronger during your daily activities? Or maybe it’s about carving out an hour in your day that’s purely yours.

When your goals are rooted in self-care rather than self-criticism, everything changes. You’ll find yourself choosing workouts that make you feel good, not just ones that burn the most calories. And spoiler alert: workouts you enjoy are the ones you’ll actually stick with.

Move in ways you love

Here’s a radical idea: if you hate a workout, you don’t have to do it. Seriously. Not everyone is built for marathon running or high-intensity interval training - and that’s okay! Fitness doesn’t have to look one way.

Try different styles of movement until you find one (or several) that light you up. Maybe it’s strength training, yoga, dancing in your living room, or long walks with your favourite podcast. The best workout is the one you want to show up for.

"Instead of focusing on how someone else looks or what they can lift, celebrate your wins - no matter how small they seem."

Bright-coloured kettlebells for training.

Rest is part of the process

Let’s get one thing straight: rest is not lazy, it is not failure, and it is essential. Self-love in fitness means recognising when your body needs a break and honouring that need without guilt.

Rest days aren’t about “falling off track” - they’re about giving your body the time it needs to repair, recharge, and come back stronger. So, go ahead and schedule that day off. Curl up with a book, take a nap, or just let yourself be. You’ve earned it.

Ditch comparison

It’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing your progress to someone else’s. Social media is full of curated highlight reels, and it’s all too easy to feel like you’re not measuring up.

But here’s the truth: fitness is personal. Your journey is yours alone, and no one else is living in your body. Instead of focusing on how someone else looks or what they can lift, celebrate your wins - no matter how small they seem.

Did you show up for your workout today? Win. Did you choose to move your body when you didn’t feel like it? Win. Did you take a rest day because you needed it? Big win.

Celebrate your wins

Speaking of wins, celebrate them! Whether it’s hitting a milestone, trying a new workout, or just showing up on a tough day - take a moment to acknowledge your effort. Self-love thrives when you give yourself credit for showing up, even when things aren’t perfect.

Fitness isn’t about punishment, perfection, or meeting someone else’s expectations. It’s about loving your body enough to care for it - through movement, nourishment, rest, and compassion.

So, the next time you lace up your sneakers or roll out your yoga mat, take a moment to remind yourself: this is for you. This is your time, your space, and your celebration.

Now go ahead - move, breathe, rest, and most importantly, love yourself every step of the way.